To honor all (I Pet 2:17), and not do to another what one does not want done to oneself (Rule of Benedict 4.8-9, cf Tob 4:16; Matt 7:12; Luke 6:31).
StBenedict prescribed practices to “love our neighbor” by refraining from harming her. Here, he names a general approach – giving honor – and gives us a measuring rod for it.
How to honor someone? Not with titles or show, but by honoring her needs. In the monastery, we honor others by leaving the car or the laundry room clean for the next sister, or quietly filling in when a lector or leader is missing at prayers. When doubtful about our actions, Benedict – with Jesus – tells us to imagine someone helping us along. Then do the same for others.